A nation’s culture resides in the hearts and in the soul of its people.
With it’s many aspects culture might seem like a fixed upon itself standing phenomenon. It is not what it looks like though. Culture would not exist without our collective belief. To grow up in a certain place you become part of a culture, not because you chose this, but because everybody in your environment is living this way. If you want it or not, your entire life is interconnected with this creation.
Another way to look at it, is to imagine you are a mirror and culture is a giant painting. The more you walk in front of it, the more will stick to your mirror. You become increasingly a reflection of the paining, and eventually it does not matter anymore if the painting is around or not, for you to reflect it.
However, if your parents have different values than the world around you and raise you their way, conflict can occur. I both experienced this with clients who fled their country as a consequence of political instability, but also when I was traveling myself.
In this case the way I was brought up did not fit my new environment and consequently made me question both the (new) world around me, just as much reflecting on where I come from. I remember when I went to Palestine for an internship. I found it intensely annoying when there were moments I literally had nothing to do until the moment I had to do everything at once. This felt so inefficient and did not agree with the idea of time and planning that I grew up with. Similarly, I now live in Brazil where time also has a different meaning, and to make an appointment doesn’t necessarily mean that you made it.
In the following research you can see how profoundly culture affects our brain. Researchers found fascinating differences between native Chinese, and native English speakers. They looked at what parts of the brain showed activity when native Chinese speakers solved the same mathematical formula as native English speakers. They found that when the Chinese solved the formula there was more activity in the areas connected with visual and movement information. Whereas in the case of the English speakers, there was more activity in the sound and language areas. An explanation might be that in the Chinese language there is more emphasis on images and writing, and in the English language more on language processing and verbal information.
Thus, it seems that culture literally affects the way we are programmed. Nevertheless, at the same time it cannot exist without our collective belief. This does mean then, that culture can change. Since it is the result of many people believing it, it will only change when a tipping point is reached. When one person stops believing the status quo, nothing will happen. When one fourth of the population starts perceiving it’s culture differently, things are bound to shift.
This rigidity can be found in the way women still receive less salary than man in western Europe. Even though, it is generally accepted that there is no reason for them to be payed unequally. This form of underpayment is a consequence of beliefs held tens of years ago. Nowadays, the majority of people belief differently, still the fact that this idea was a basic part of yesterdays culture makes it hard to erase within a decade. Only when the old generation of beliefs disappear, new ideas can settle in.
Another example of this are (old) taboos like having sex before marriage, or not marrying at all, even though you are together with somebody for a long time. In Bolivia for example, I was told that these are taboos, where in the Netherlands both are perceived as normal. As a consequence, somebody thinking about not marrying in Bolivia might feel ashamed or frustrated, where in the Netherlands a person contemplating the same thought might experience nothing different than when he or she thinks of coffee.
I believe it important to know that the connections between our thoughts, emotions, behavior, and culture are inevitable. Or like Mahatma Gandhi said: “A nation’s culture resides in the hearts and in the soul of its people.” Then, when you are aware of the subjectivity of culture, you have the opportunity to revalue any concept that is part of it.